by Benjamin Allen | Jan 22, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
When Matt was 2 years old he would climb into the car on the driver’s side and grab the rear view mirror to balance himself. It would irritate me to no end to have to clean off the smudge prints of his fingers that were usually caked with something. I’d encourage him...
by Benjamin Allen | Jan 20, 2014 | reflections on grief recovery, what to do when loss first happens
Whether the loss is a job, a relationship, a dream or someone you love, there is a major shift in what was to what is. The present is no longer the same and a new set of dynamics has dramatically descended upon your life. A major change has happened and it will take...
by Benjamin Allen | Jan 18, 2014 | reflections on grief recovery
When you’re living in Afterloss everything is in slow motion. What I’ve come to realize it is out of sync with the world around us. People go on with lives and life changes for those in loss. It takes a lot of intentionality to go through grief....
by Benjamin Allen | Jan 15, 2014 | reflections on grief recovery
“When will this pain be over? When can I turn the corner? When is it going to shift?” I asked a friend. He said, “it’s just going to take time and distance.” His response echoed in me for a long time. How much time? How much distance?...
by Benjamin Allen | Jan 15, 2014 | reflections on grief recovery
There were times when I would go through massive waves of grief. I would be overwhelmed, paralyzed and heaving for every breath. These episodes would last only a few minutes, but they would come out of nowhere and take over. I found during those experiences I just had...
