About the Books

“Out of the Ashes” is the first of four grief healing books by Benjamin Allen.

“Out of the Ashes” chronicles my journey through what I call “The AfterLoss”– a world of pain and grief following unspeakable loss. When you are in the depths of pain, you feel like the pain will last forever, that it will never go away. But I am here to tell you that it is possible to come to a place of healing and peace. You can even find new ways to connect with meaning and purpose with the one you lost.

I share my story so you will know you are not alone. My mission with this book is to encourage you and give you hope. Please give yourself permission to lean into your loss, whether it be fresh or ancient history. Everyone experiences loss. It is my hope that as I share how I made it through the Afterloss of sorrow into healing, you will see how the losses in your life can discover healing, too.

Why is a book like this necessary?

Grief can be a solitary path. Truly. There are places only you can go. However, when you step in the footprints of others who have journeyed the path of loss and come to a place of healing, you know you can do it, too.

This book can help you identify AfterLoss milestones. I share mine so you can, perhaps for the first time, put a name to your thoughts and feelings and actions.

Also watch for my forthcoming publication “Living in the AfterLoss Guidebook.” This companion to “Out of the Ashes: Healing in the Afterloss” will provide you a deeper place of reflection and an awareness of your own healing journey.  You do not need to explore this new world of the Afterloss alone.


In this book you will discover:

  • The important elements in the healing journey.
  • How to embrace preparatory grief so you are able to start the healing process
  • How to live in The AfterLoss – the way to move through grief into a more meaningful, whole experience of life.
  • How to honor the one you have lost, and shift the pain into an experience of peace and acceptance.
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