by Benjamin Allen | Feb 2, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
Matt wanted to live to be a teenager. He died a month after his thirteenth birthday. The day after his birthday party, I was in the living room sitting on the floor listening to a song I was planning to have at his funeral. I was crying a waterfall of tears when he...
by Benjamin Allen | Jan 25, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
There are sacred places uniquely designed for healing grief. These sacred places are created by the individual living in the Afterloss. These places become sacred by shared memories or significant events that reflect a deeper meaning in the Afterloss. Half Moon Bay...
by Benjamin Allen | Jan 25, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
After the thirteen year period of going through the lives and deaths of my family I was completely undone. It was then that I could let go absolutely in the Afterloss. A friend came over one day and said, “A couple of us were talking and we’re really worried about...
by Benjamin Allen | Jan 24, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
What happens when we die? What is on the other side? Is there another side? These are questions that sooner or later we all must face and we all must answer. In my younger years, part of my professional life as a spiritual caregiver, was to walk with people to the...
by Benjamin Allen | Jan 22, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
Rachel, my wife, finally did the unthinkable. She got me on Facebook. For years she’s been saying, “You need to get on Facebook.” My response has always been, “I don’t like to be social in person. Why would I want to do it on a computer?” My anti-social behavior isn’t...
by Benjamin Allen | Jan 22, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
I never was a big fan of the 5 Stages of Grief. Boxes tend to break. A better expression for me is the Multi-layers of Loss. Loss has never been a linear experience for me. In the world of the Afterloss point A oftentimes doesn’t go to point B. The last stage in the 5...
