by Benjamin Allen | Feb 2, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
In moving from the world of Before to the Afterloss there was a series of first I had to navigate – the first birthday without him or her, the first holiday, the first winter, spring, summer and autumn. (To this day, when summer changes to autumn I still need to...
by Benjamin Allen | Feb 2, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
The best way to prepare for the next moment is to live fully in this one. I knew my wife and children were dying. We had long months and years for preparatory grief. However, what I found was that preparatory grief didn’t prepare me for their deaths. It prepared me...
by Benjamin Allen | Feb 2, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
“People treat you like loss is an infectious disease as if they get close to you they’re going to catch it,” a friend said to me in a conversation yesterday morning. I never thought of it like that before. I never looked at why some people just couldn’t show up in my...
by Benjamin Allen | Feb 2, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
Matt wanted to live to be a teenager. He died a month after his thirteenth birthday. The day after his birthday party, I was in the living room sitting on the floor listening to a song I was planning to have at his funeral. I was crying a waterfall of tears when he...
by Benjamin Allen | Jan 25, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery
There are sacred places uniquely designed for healing grief. These sacred places are created by the individual living in the Afterloss. These places become sacred by shared memories or significant events that reflect a deeper meaning in the Afterloss. Half Moon Bay...
