by Benjamin Allen | Jun 24, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
I read your words from a distance and they land deep within me. I do not know the sound of your voice, but I know the sound of your sorrow. We echo across a torn land with the anguish of torn lives. You have lost someone dear and I know the dearness of loss. I cry...
by Benjamin Allen | Jun 23, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
I don’t know, but I know loss colors everything. Loss shades every aspect of my life. I live a kaleidoscope of moments and in each one there are the shifting colors laced in loss. A beautiful sunset paints the sky and somewhere in the majesty there is that part of me...
by Benjamin Allen | Jun 21, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
She would have been a lot of things, but she isn’t. The one thing she is is she’s not forgotten. This week I have been out of sorts, a little off center. Things have been just a little out of focus. I have had a low-grade anxiety that something is off kilter. These...
by Benjamin Allen | Jun 20, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
How do I hold on to love and let go of the pain? Is it possible to separate the two? I hold a photograph and it takes me to a place of deep warmth in memory. I remember the moment with tenderness, with gratitude, with love. Looking up from the photo, I am here. The...
by Benjamin Allen | Jun 18, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
The missing parts of me have gone missing. Hopes and dreams have disappeared. I wanted so much for them. I had not realized how much more I wanted for me, too. When they say life goes on I take it to mean graduations will take place and my children won’t be there....
by Benjamin Allen | Jun 17, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
I used to think grief had a destination. There was a place in the distance where everything was going to be okay. The past would heal. Life would return to “normal.” Somewhere out there everything was going to be okay. Okay is not out there. If I am to find okay, I...
