by Benjamin Allen | Mar 24, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
To find healing, I needed to come to a place where I forgave everything, including me. Today, I have no regrets, but it has been an arduous journey to find freedom and healing, to live in forgiveness. Forgiveness, especially self-forgiveness, was a perilous path in my...
by Benjamin Allen | Mar 20, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
Not the time that circles numbers on a clock, but the time that encircles a heart. I needed to walk with my sorrow in my sorrow. I needed to be alone, to be with others and to just be. In my world of the Afterloss, time bends like light bends space. A memory takes...
by Benjamin Allen | Mar 20, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
The difference between depression and grief is one of location. Grief begins in my heart and pulsates out into my world. Depression, for me, resides in the recessive realms of my life with no tangible center. Grief is like a thunderstorm that rains incessantly in my...
by Benjamin Allen | Mar 20, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
The theme song for my early days of living in sorrow and loss was “Running on Empty” by Jackson Browne. There simply wasn’t a lot of reserve left in the tank. Every day more was going out than coming in and I would run on empty until I fell into bed. I began to...
by Benjamin Allen | Mar 20, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
Loss took everything and it took everything I had left to make it through the day. In the initial aftermath of their deaths, and my remains, I inched my way through the moment.The outside world temporarily converged to provide comfort and scattered when all was said...
by Benjamin Allen | Mar 17, 2014 | reflections on grief, reflections on grief recovery, reintegration after loss
Who put a stopwatch on grief? Who are the powers that be? Who said, “Time’s up. Time to move on,” and left those living in loss to live in secret? Loss goes underground when we don’t play by the rules. No one actually says there is a right and wrong way to grieve. The...
